I was wondering if I should write this post or not, but since it is something that annoys me and maybe a few of you I thought why not? Some of you may have seen me ranting on twitter yesterday about this but I just feel like it has to be said, although granted its been said a thousand times. Now, I'm not tarring all men with the same brush here, I truly think its a minority who think its acceptable to act in this manner.
On Sundays, since the first bus going back to mine arrives at nine am, I tend to walk from C's instead, this takes just over an hour and I set out around seven thirty am. Now I've really been enjoying just walking, its something I never make the time for and on Sunday its just so peaceful and quiet and yesterday it was nice and sunny. In the time that it took me to walk home, I got beeped my three different people, one of them continuously beeping until they had drove past me. I don't know about you but I hate it, not only does it make me jump out of my skin but I hate people leering at me. Usually I just brush it off and get it over it but the fact that it happened three times yesterday grated on me. Maybe it was something about yesterday, later I went to meet C from work, I caught the five pm bus and every time I go to meet him I walk down by the river since I love looking at the ducks and geese and now cute, fluffy ducklings. As I was walking there was a group of lads on the other side of the river fishing and one of them started yelling stuff at me, sometimes I really do wish I had the guts to yell back but I just ignored them, since I ignored them one of them started yelling insults about how pale I was and of course making the groups of guys laugh, that just made me even more angry. I've actually encountered two of these people before fishing and again they yelled stuff at me, which I ignored and they shouted 'I know you love us shouting stuff at you, I can see you smiling' I wasn't, I just wanted to be pass them as soon as possible.
Before I used to be pretty fearless in walking around on my own but now I always carry the sense of danger, I'm aware of everyone around me. A while ago when I was at C's I was catching the bus to work and this kid, he must have been around 14/15 came up to me and started saying sexual stuff to me and attempting to grab my bum... I had no idea how to react, I wanted to punch him in the face but repeatedly told him to 'f*ck off' I would have loved for this to be a one off and to never have seen that kid again but I kept bumping into him and his behavior was this same, it honestly made me scared to catch the bus. I also didn't know how to handle this situation, could I even report him? I haven't seen him for a while and hopefully won't but my only thought is 'If that's his attitude to women now, what will he be like when he is older?' Another time at the same bus stop, it was five am and I was doing a early shift at work, there was a guy just standing around, I was on the opposite side of the road and thought maybe he's waiting to get picked up for work, as I walked past him he started shouting stuff at me, I crossed over the road onto the same side he was when I got to the bus stop praying he wouldn't come over, he did he then proceeded to say sorry for yelling stuff. My heart was pounding in my chest I was alone at the bus stop with this guy. He kept saying all kinds of stuff to me and I kept inching away but he kept getting closer, people did show up at the bus stop eventually which made me feel safer but still this guy harassed me he was saying stuff about getting married and killing anyone who'd hurt me... When the bus came he followed me onto it, not sitting next me and left me alone, until he got off were he then chucked a piece of paper with his number on it at me.
The only thing I want is too feel safe and not be harassed if I walk done the street. I'm not sure why some guys think this is okay but it really isn't.
Another thing I'm annoyed about is how some men think women wear makeup and show of skin for them, just no. I wear make up because it makes me feel better about myself, its lame but make up does that, it makes me feel good and gives me confidence. I wish i felt like that without it but I don't and as for showing of skin, I don't want to be hot in Summer having to cover myself up, I also like shorts and dresses, they are the clothes I feel more comfortable in! Now, there is nothing wrong with looking I'll look at a girl and think she's pretty, or I think that guys attractive but I'm also not leering at them or yelling crap.
Have you ever been through something similar? I'd love to hear your thoughts.